FOUR PILLARS TOGETHER
Not everything needs a counselling appointment.
Four Pillars Together is the self-guided side of Four Pillars Counselling: practical online programmes to help you reflect, connect and try something useful in everyday life.
Developed with Jon Kirk, founder of Four Pillars Counselling, the programmes bring together counselling-informed ideas, guided activities and practical tools you can explore at your own pace.
Eight programmes · Free samples to explore · At your pace
See Together for current single-programme purchases, membership options and access details. Prices on Together are in Australian dollars.
Counselling gives you a relationship with a counsellor and support shaped around what is happening in your life.
Four Pillars Together is different. These educational programmes offer guided activities, reflections and conversations you can explore independently, with a partner or alongside another carer, depending on the programme.
They do not include appointments with a counsellor. Choose a short activity, take a little time with it and return when it suits.
Find your chapter
01 · Self-guided programme
For individuals managing everyday pressure. Adults 18+.
Make room for recurring worries, boundaries and rest. Explore everyday examples from work, family responsibilities and life changes, and develop a small plan to try.
Explore Steadier Days02 · Self-guided programme
For individuals who want to understand their patterns. Adults 18+.
Explore how thoughts, feelings and actions connect, with worked examples, interactive tools and small experiments to try, review and adapt in ordinary life.
Explore Everyday CBT03 · Self-guided programme
For individuals exploring what matters to them. Adults 18+.
Practise noticing thoughts, making room for feelings and taking manageable actions guided by your values. Explore ten modules at your own pace.
Explore Everyday ACT04 · Self-guided programme
For individuals and couples adjusting to life in Aotearoa New Zealand. Adults 18+.
Moving countries involves more than organising a house, job or school. This guided experience makes room for what you miss, the changes you are navigating and the routines and connections you want to build in your new home.
Explore Life after the move05 · Self-guided programme
For couples who want to make a little more room for each other. Adults 18+.
Step outside the everyday with guided games and mini-classes. Explore what you appreciate, learn something new about one another and create small moments of connection worth returning to.
Explore An evening for us06 · Self-guided programme
For adult partners and carers. Solo preparation or shared activities.
Notice the planning and remembering behind household tasks, talk about capacity and draft a practical arrangement to try. Use it independently or together by agreement.
Explore Sharing the Load07 · Self-guided programme
For parents and carers of children aged 5–10.
Explore everyday routines, parenting differences and practical ways to create more clarity and connection at home. Work through the activities on your own or alongside another carer.
Explore Same team at home08 · Self-guided programme
For adults navigating dating apps and early relationships. Adults 18+.
Get clearer about what matters to you, develop an app routine that fits your life and explore the conversations that help you understand compatibility as a connection develops.
Explore Dating with intentionAt your pace
Start with the part of life you want to give some attention to.
Explore guided activities, reflections and conversations at a pace that fits you.
Take an idea into everyday life and return to the activities that feel helpful. Check each programme for the resources it includes.
A programme offers structured education and activities you can explore independently. Counselling offers personalised support and an ongoing therapeutic relationship.
You do not have to treat them as competing choices. A programme may give you something useful to reflect on, while counselling gives you a space to explore your own circumstances more fully.
Four Pillars Together programmes are educational resources. They are not an individual assessment, a counselling service or a substitute for healthcare or crisis support. They are not intended to address abuse, coercion or immediate safety concerns.
Unsure where to start? Contact Jon to talk through your options.
Contact JonFour Pillars Together grew from a simple idea: useful psychological and relationship tools should not only exist inside a counselling room.
The programmes have been developed with Jonathan Kirk, PMNZAC, founder of Four Pillars Counselling, with an emphasis on practical, human and accessible learning.
Practical. Human. At your pace.
